Tag: dailyprompt-1815

  • The Internet Killed Boredom. Did It Kill Imagination Too?

    What happens when every quiet moment is replaced with a scroll? 

    I don’t remember the last time I was bored. I’ve always found a way to fill every empty moment. It’s either a show, movie, a video or just random doom scrolling. 

    I just cannot sit in silence.

    That made me question if we really just killed boredom or also killed imagination with it.

    Honestly, I don’t think so, because I am still the same imaginative person that I was as a child. So, as much as I don’t believe in this argument, I want to see it from both sides of the coin.

    What boredom looked like before the internet?

    Before the internet took over, boredom meant so many things like, staring out of the car window, waiting at doctor’s clinics, lying on the terrace watching clouds, making random stories in your head, doodling in notebooks or reading shampoo bottles in the bathroom 😂

    Boredom wasn’t empty. It was waiting for your brain to create something. 

    Anything.

    And I miss it.

    I miss being able to just sit in my pitch black room and just being in my thoughts. Creating random stories with stupid scenarios. Or think of myself as the lead in a movie and just narrate all the things I would have done. Pretend to be a singer and win an award (Let’s be fair we all have done this 😂).

    Today, boredom lasts about five seconds

    Every pause gets filled with the internet. No one wants to just be in the movement. 

    I mean we have done it, standing in line → Instagram, elevator → phone, sitting alone → YouTube, bathroom → scrolling, waiting for food → Reels. 

    This is our daily life now. 

    Even I do this, I could be out with my friends, and if we stop talking for 5 minutes, all of us whip our phones out and start scrolling. We don’t really talk anymore, just spend our days sharing reels. 

    When was the last time your brain had nothing to do?

    I don’t remember this… Do you?

    What constant stimulation changes

    Creativity

    I would like to think I am quite a creative person, I have a lot of ideas. Not just about writing or reading, but about art too. I am working on my drawing and painting skills, because I want to be able to draw. It seems so fun. 

    So, why is there such a lack of creativity today?

    When I tried to learn about it more, a few things stood out to me 

    Lack of original ideas : Ideas need quiet. If every empty moment is filled, your brain never wanders.

    True innovation happens when the mind is under-stimulated and forced to connect disparate concepts. Constant input fills that void with other people’s ideas, leading to derivative thinking. 

    Surface-level problem solving: The brain defaults to quick, algorithmic solutions found online rather than enduring the mental friction required to invent unique solutions.


    Fear of the blank page: Because the brain is unused to emptiness, starting a creative project from scratch feels overwhelming and anxiety-inducing rather than exciting.

    Reading

    Oh my god, this has to be my favourite thing ever. I love reading.

    I’ve loved reading since I was a child. I started out with children’s books, expanding to Fanfictions and then to actual published books. 

    I just love reading.

    Even though I do see people online talk a lot more about reading now (Well, this could just be my Instagram feed for all I know.. 😌), I still think people are still unaware. 

    And when I did a little digging why that could be, I found out a few things 

    Loss of deep linear focus: Continuous scrolling trains the eye to skim text vertically for keywords rather than tracking lines horizontally. This makes reading long-form books feel physically exhausting.

    Eroded narrative patience: Dense world-building and slow-developing plots feel boring because the brain expects immediate narrative payoffs every few seconds.

    Weakened visualization: Books ask you to imagine. Videos imagine for you. When screens instantly provide vivid images, the mental muscle used to construct characters, settings, and scenes from plain text atrophies.

    Hobbies

    Instead of making things, we consume other people making things. We look at the videos or lifestyle the other people are living, instead of doing things ourselves to get to where we want to be. 

    The more I looked into it, the more I realized it wasn’t just me 

    Abandonment of slow-skill tracking: Hobbies with steep learning curves (like woodworking, knitting, or learning an instrument) are often dropped because they do not offer immediate digital gratification. And some of the factors could be : 

    Performative engagement: Hobbies shift from private acts of joy to content creation, where the value of the activity is measured by views or likes rather than the process itself.

    Micro-niche burnout: Constant exposure to hyper-optimized, expert-level hobbyists online creates intimidation, causing beginners to quit before they build competence.

    Daydreaming

    This is something I have mastered a lot actually. 

    I daydream even when I am watching something, like a video, a show or a movie, or even reading a book. All I do is pause it for a minute, imagine what I would have done, daydream about it for a while and then get back to it. (Yes, I know it can sound weird for a 29-year-old 🙄)

    Those moments disappear when attention is constantly occupied. It turns out there’s actually a psychological explanation for this. 

    Extinction of the Default Mode Network: Daydreaming requires the brain to drop into a resting state to process memories and identity. Constant stimulation overrides this, completely eliminating idle thought.

    Loss of internal narrative: Instead of reflecting on personal experiences or imagining future scenarios, the mind’s inner monologue is replaced by a loop of recently consumed audio, memes, and videos.

    Decreased self-awareness: Without the quiet space of a daydream to untangle emotions, people become less connected to their own underlying feelings and motivations.

    Is boredom actually a skill?

    You know what, maybe boredom isn’t a problem. Maybe it’s a muscle we’ve stopped using.

    Children naturally invent games. Adults immediately unlock their phones.

    Boredom itself is not a skill, but tolerating and utilizing boredom is a critical psychological skill called “boredom tolerance.”

    In a world engineered for instant gratification, the ability to sit with emptiness without reaching for a distraction is a modern superpower that must be practiced and maintained.

    When you actively build this skill, it unlocks advanced cognitive abilities like deep focus, emotional regulation, and original creativity. A bored mind is forced to activate its “default mode network,” the brain state responsible for daydreaming, processing memories, and making unique creative connections. Without this necessary friction, the brain never learns to entertain itself, leading to short attention spans and a low tolerance for real-world delays.

    You can practice and rebuild this skill through small, daily moments of intentional emptiness. Try leaving your phone in your pocket while waiting in lines, washing the dishes without background audio, or commuting in complete silence. Choosing to endure these minor gaps of under-stimulation trains your brain to handle low-input environments, transforming boredom from an uncomfortable emotion into a powerful tool for mental clarity. 

    The irony

    We have more entertainment than any generation before us.

    Yet people constantly say

    “I don’t know what to do.”

    That’s a fascinating contradiction.

    This paradox is driven by choice overload, where an abundance of options leads directly to anxiety and indecision. 

    Before the digital age, people chose from just a few books, three TV channels, or a handful of physical games. 

    Today, opening a streaming service means browsing tens of thousands of titles, triggering a constant fear of making the wrong choice. This mental fatigue makes the act of selecting a task feel exhausting, causing people to scroll aimlessly for hours and ultimately conclude that there is nothing worth doing.

    When I try to open Netflix or Amazon, I just get so confused on what to watch. I have a lot of shows I was looking forward to watching, but then I just get so overwhelmed that I just stop, and exit and end up just doom scrolling instead.

    At the same time, instant digital entertainment has turned us into passive consumers rather than active creators. When stimulation is always available at the push of a button, the brain stops practicing the skill of initiation, which is the mental effort required to start a hobby, read a book, or invent a game. When faced with free time outside of a screen, the mind feels temporarily paralyzed because it has forgotten how to bridge the gap between emptiness and action without a digital prompt.

    Finally, continuous exposure to fast-paced content keeps the brain’s dopamine baseline unnaturally high, desensitizing our reward pathways. This constant hyper-stimulation raises the threshold for what we perceive as interesting, making traditional activities like cooking, practicing an instrument, or taking a walk feel incredibly dull. The exclamation that someone does not know what to do really means that nothing in their immediate physical environment can compete with the effortless dopamine rush of a smartphone.

    Conclusion

    Now, I won’t tell you to delete Instagram.

    Social media isn’t inherently bad. It helps us stay connected, learn new things, discover communities, and even find inspiration. The problem isn’t that these platforms exist. The problem is that they’ve become our default response to every empty moment.

    But wandering isn’t wasted time. It’s where ideas collide. 

    It’s where memories resurface. It’s where questions become stories, problems find solutions, and creativity quietly begins to grow. Some of your best thoughts will never compete with a feed that’s constantly demanding your attention.

    So, instead of reaching for your phone the next time you have ten spare minutes, try doing nothing.

    Look out the window.

    Watch people walk by.

    Let your thoughts drift wherever they want to go.

    It might feel strange at first. Maybe even uncomfortable. That’s okay. 

    You’re not failing at being productive. You’re simply making space for your own mind again.

    Because creativity rarely arrives when we’re consuming. It often arrives in the pauses between everything else.

    What if the next good idea you’re waiting for is hiding inside ten minutes of silence?

    What if the answer to a problem you’ve been trying to solve isn’t another video, another post, or another podcast, but a conversation with your own thoughts?

    Maybe boredom was never something to escape.

    Maybe it was the doorway to curiosity.

    Maybe it was the quiet place where your mind could finally hear itself.

    And maybe imagination was never gone.

    It was just waiting for you to stop scrolling long enough to find it again.

    Let me know your thoughts below 👇🏻💕


  • The Loneliest Part of Healing Is That No One Claps for It

    The most important milestones in our lives are often the ones no one else sees.

    We celebrate promotions.
    We celebrate weddings.
    We celebrate graduations.
    But nobody congratulates you for finally sleeping through the night without thinking about someone who broke your heart.

    I myself have been through things in my life and it took me 5years to heal myself and get out of that head space. There is so much trauma we all go through, some get it together easily and for some it takes time.

    But one thing I have learned is, no one can heal you, you have to heal yourself. You have to take that step yourself.

    What healing actually looks like?

    Talk about how healing isn’t dramatic. Healing isn’t a straight line and doesn’t mean forgetting the past. Instead, it looks like pausing before reacting, setting boundaries instead of people-pleasing, and bouncing back faster from bad days. It’s about integrating your experiences so they don’t dominate your present.
    True recovery manifests in a few subtle but profound ways:
    A quieter nervous system: You feel physically safer, experiencing fewer stress-related headaches or muscle tension.Mindful responses: Instead of instantly spiraling or snapping, you can take a breath and name your emotions (e.g., “I feel overwhelmed”).
    Reclaiming your energy: The past no longer monopolizes your mental space. You can engage with past triggers without being hijacked by them.
    Practicing self-compassion: You allow yourself to feel grief, make mistakes, and say “no” without judging yourself.

    Is Healing ment to be seen?
    Healing is absolutely meant to be seen, both by you and by the world around you. This realization is often a major turning point because it shifts your perspective from hiding your pain to honoring your growth.
    When healing becomes visible, it shows up in clear, tangible changes:
    In Your Body and Presence
    • Open posture: Unclenching your jaw, dropping your shoulders, and making steady eye contact.
    • Calmer voice: Speaking with a grounded, unhurried pace because you feel safe being heard.
    • Brighter energy: Carrying less physical heaviness, which naturally makes you look lighter and more present.
    In Your Daily Choices
    • Visible boundaries: Saying a clear “no” out loud without over-explaining or apologizing.
    • Active self-care: Leaving a stressful environment or choosing to rest without hiding it as a secret guilt.
    • Openly seeking joy: Actively participating in hobbies, laughing freely, and accepting compliments.
    In Your Connections
    • Authentic sharing: Speaking about your past struggles in the past tense, without shame or emotional spirals.
    • Healthy vulnerability: Letting safe people see your imperfections instead of masking them behind a perfect facade.
    • Deepening relationships: Attracting people who respect your growth and phase out those who only liked your old, people-pleasing habits.

    Conclusion
    We often think healing ends with a grand moment. A dramatic realization. A version of ourselves that no longer hurts.

    But healing rarely announces its arrival.

    It quietly slips into the ordinary moments. The day you stop replaying the conversation in your head. The moment you choose peace instead of proving a point. The first time you laugh without guilt. The day you realize you no longer recognize the person who once carried so much pain.

    Maybe no one will ever know how many nights you spent putting yourself back together. They won’t see the boundaries you fought to build, the habits you had to unlearn, or the courage it took to choose yourself over what was familiar.

    And that’s okay.

    Because healing was never a performance. It was never about convincing the world that you’re doing better. It was about creating a life where you no longer have to survive every single day.

    No one may clap for your healing.

    But one day, you’ll wake up and realize you don’t need them to.

    The peace you’ve built for yourself will always be louder than the applause you never received.

    Let me know your thoughts below 👇🏻💕


  • I Didn’t Expect to Love This Album…

    A track-by-track review of Olivia Rodrigo’s You seem pretty sad for a girl so in love from someone who wasn’t expecting to become a fan.

    Album Overview

    • Artist: Olivia Rodrigo
    • Album: You seem pretty sad for a girl so in love
    • Release Date: 13 June 2026
    • Genre: pop album
    • Number of Tracks: 13
    • Length: 54:45 minutes

    Before I Pressed Play

    The last time I reviewed an album was “Life of a showgirl” and I was really disappointed. Her album has not been a hit as much to me since “Folklore”. To me, that was her last best album. 

    I have been searching for a good album since and I did get “Man’s bestfriend” and “Arirang” but I’ll talk about those albums next time (maybe do a review of those albums after ♾️ times).

    I am not an Olivia fan at all, nor do I hate her. I personally do not get connected to her songs much. I do have a few I like, like deja vu, vampire and happier. But that’s all, she is too young so naturally her previous albums have been about teenage experiences. I have been out of it for a while now. 

    And the album name is too big?? “You seem pretty sad for a girl so in love” that is a huge name for an album. It took me 2 business days to learn it.

    The only reason I decided to hear this album is because I really liked her song “The Cure”. So I decided that I should check it out.

    So here I am 😁

    I actually do not have much expectations because of how music is right now, the songs aren’t really hitting anymore. Also I don’t keep up much with her, so I probably won’t get the references.

    I am gonna read about each song, what their stories are and everything to try and understand this album as much as I can.

    Here I go with my headphones 🎧 on where everyone in my house is sleeping at 4:20 am….😶

    It is in fact, going to be my late night thoughts 💭 


    Track 1: [Drop Dead]

    First Listen

    It was a nice song, I liked it. It’s a good opener, letting the listener into her album.

    It’s quite catchy and growing up in me. I had to listen to it 2-3 times to form an opinion. I really liked how she started alternate rapping in the middle part of the song.

    And she is talking about her being a Pisces and him being a Gemini, water signs and air signs aren’t really that compatible. So using that to show how even though at first it seems like they are not compatible she thinks they could work well.

    Lyrics

    So, the song is about meeting someone for a first date, and the date goes well. More like giddy and lovesick about the person or the date itself.

    She sings about Pisces and Gemini too, which I learned she is a Pisces and her ex is a Gemini.

    The theme is basically the nervousness of meeting them for the first time.

    Production

    It sounds good, for an opener it is a good song. I really like the pacing of the song. It’s a synth pop or pop rock song. Quite upbeat and happy. 

    Standout Moment

    There is this alternative-rap inspired segment in the middle of the song that was unexpected.

    Replay Value

    I am not sure if I would willingly come back to it, but if the song plays I will not skip it.

    Rating

    ⭐ 9/10


    Track 2: [Stupid Song]

    First Listen

    Okay, I am half way through the song… and I absolutely love this. (Will report back once done. 🙂)

    I am back, and I love this one a lot. This is an amazing song. I can already tell this will stay with me. 

    There is a theme of undermining herself and showing herself as the crazy and insane one here. She keep talking about how he is the spark, even though this is her talking about how she is falling, there is still insecurities seeping in.

    Lyrics

    There is a lyric “They say that  honest love is a cage that makes you feel free” I really liked it. This song is actually awesome. This is some of the strongest writing on the album.

    The other lyric that stands out to me is “You’re a spark in the dark and my clothes are caught aflame”

    Production

    The beats are pretty pop-rock, but the lyrics are sad. It felt like being so overwhelmed with your own emotions, you don’t even know what to do.

    Standout Moment

    The entire song is a standout actually. 

    Only 2 songs in, and I already found my top 5?

    Replay Value

    Going straight to my playlist. It’s an amazing song. The lyricism is just too good on this one.

    If you’re only listening to one song from this album, make it this one. 

    Rating

    ⭐10 /10


    Track 3: [honeybee]

    First Listen

    A love song, this is a love song. It’s cute. I like this too. She is good with her pen I have to say.

    Okay, this is adorable, it is such a cute song, I am tearing up a little. 🥹

    Again, the anxiety she has about the relationship is showing itself the more the song goes on. It is a love song, but she seems like she is scared to lose this.

    Lyrics

    A love song, there is this one lyric I actually really like “And I hope I never see
    What your face looks like going.” This was the line that stayed with me.  

    I actually had an amazing story idea because of the song.

    Production

    The production complements the lyrics beautifully. I am actually big on great instruments and this is fantastic.

    Standout Moment

    Oh enchanting instruments in this one. My god, it’s so pretty.

    Replay Value

    Another top 5 Olivia!!! 

    This one completely won me over, going straight to my playlist.

    This is worth checking out.  

    Rating

    ⭐ 9.5/10


    Track 4: [Maggots for Brain]

    First Listen

    Ohhhhhh I wasn’t expecting to enjoy this as much as I did. The start with drums, very 80s inspired. 

    I just learned it is inspired by Sex and The City’s Miranda Hobbes. But the song is about codependence in a relationship. This is good too. Okay, some lyrics are relatable to me. But I don’t have a baby, so I feel like this everyday.🙂

    The continuation of the same “I am the one that is off hinge”. The codependence in relationships can get really bad. This might be clingy to others, or even to him. But she is not afraid to tell him that.

    Lyrics

    “My day was so mundane
    I don’t think I left the house
    Tried to write, nothing came out” Is so me. 😂

    Production

    I am absolutely in awe of the instrumentation of these songs. The start from drums and ending with guitar is perfect. There’s also piano, bass and saxophone with background vocals.

    Standout Moment

    It’s another good song, altho I liked the others better, but some of the lyrics were relatable. I liked this better than Drop dead.

    Replay Value

    Yes, I’ll play it again but when I am bored of those songs.

    Rating

    ⭐ 8/10


    Track 5: [U + Me = <3]

    First Listen

    Hmm at first listen, I can tell this song is more about hope in a relationship, while being aware how unpredictable love can be.

    I am kind of mixed now. It’s not bad, it is leaking towards good, but I don’t know if it doesn’t hit the same as others. 

    To me it seems like she is assuring herself with this one by saying they are forever, because there is an underlining of a relationship slipping away. She is trying to cling on the hope of making the relationship work with her partner.

    Lyrics

    Hope, that’s what the song is about, there is not much to it for me. I can’t relate honestly. 

    Production

    The instruments are very 80s inspired pop, it’s nice. It feels nostalgic and romantic. The instrumentation elevates the song. 

    Standout Moment

    There aren’t really many standout parts for me. It is a cure song. I like the guitar tho.

    Replay Value

    I would not play it, I might skip it. Maybe it’s a grower, but the initial response, not a fav. 

    Rating

    ⭐ 7.5/10


    Track 6: [My way]

    First Listen

    Is this her “Better than revenge”? 

    Well it is better than that. She is calling someone out for crossing her boundaries with her boyfriend.

    I love when women take a stand for themselves and create boundaries, absolutely love that. 

    About the song, it’s again giving me mixed feelings, I am somewhere in the middle with this one.

    I don’t have much thoughts about this song in particular, it’s pretty to the point. 

    Lyrics

    The lyrics are kind of calling someone out, this also doesn’t have any specific lyrics that stand out to me here.

    Production

    The production is good with guitar and drums. The arrangement creates the perfect atmosphere. 

    Standout Moment

    Nothing much stood out here/

    Replay Value

    Willingly won’t play the song, but I will not shut it either.

    Rating

    ⭐7.5 /10


    Track 7: [Purple]

    First Listen

    Oh I love interpreting music as I go, and it seems this one is more like her realising the relationship is going south.

    This is good, it’s not a bad song, the lyrics and music complement each other too, but again for me there is something missing, I can’t pin the point where, but there is something missing for me.

    She is using the colour purple as a metaphor here because she is becoming too tangled with her partner. Which is again clever, but as much as I love this metaphor I still don’t like that song that much. The depth is there, I give her that. The pen game is super.

    Lyrics

    I liked the lyric “You kiss my neck
    Made out paths intersect”

    “And i melt in your blue, your red and my blue
    Now I see the world in purple”. Beautiful.

    Production

    There is a lot of use of guitars and drums in this album… Sonically, this is one of the stronger tracks (for me.) 

    Standout Moment

    The song is pretty actually, Ofcourse what stands out for me the most are the lyrics (writer’s brain), followed by guitar and drums. The imagery is beautiful. 

    “Melt with you till it all turns black
    When you smooth it out, but it feels too flat”.

    Replay Value

    Yes, I would replay it, the lyrics were good, and I liked the song.

    Rating

    ⭐ 8.5/10


    Track 8: [The Cure]

    First Listen

    Another masterpiece on the album. This is the song that made me do this whole review and listen to the album.

    The song is about self doubt, emotional struggles and how relationships cannot fix what we have inside us. 

    This clicked instantly. 

    One thing I don’t like about it is, she keeps comparing herself to others, her partner, other girls and more.

    The cure she is looking for is not there, it never was the cure is in us. And I could relate. I was like this once too, I thought “maybe there is something wrong with me”. 

    I have come out from a chapter similar to this, probably why I got instantly hitched.

    Lyrics

    The whole song is actually really good, kinda relatable too. 

    My favourite lyrics are the chores actually “My head is full of poison
    And my heart is full of doubt
    I got toxins in my bloodstream.”

    “I’m unraveled”

    Okay, I find this lyric funny in a good way. “Feeling so alone, might as well be on the moon.”

    Production

    The production is good. I love the acoustic guitar in the back a lot, and Strings. The production gives the song a nostalgic feel. 

    Standout Moment

    The song is mesmerising and I can relate to this one off. Another one of the top 5.

    The standout are the lyrics of course for me. As a writer, I am always drawn to the lyrics of the songs. So, I love when artists are great writers too.

    Replay Value

    Yes, replaying it. Instant save… oh wait it already is. 

    Give this one a chance. 

    Rating

    ⭐ 10/10


    Track 9: [Begged]

    First Listen

    This one is her begging for affection from her partner. I don’t like when people beg others, but then again she is young and definitely not like me. 

    The song is pretty fabulous actually, I was not expecting to like someone begging their partner this much, but I did. And I related to some of this too.

    The way she described herself as an anchor, because it’s heavy and stays there until lifted out. And then she called herself a penny. In a way saying she cannot be away from him or she would sink.

    I like interpretation of arts differently, maybe she mentioned something else, but that’s what I think.

    Lyrics

    “And my endless well of needs
    I’m an anchor in the ocean
    You know I could never leave” Chef’s kiss 🤌🏻

    Production

    The production on the album is immaculate. It sounds more like a sad song, like a realisation and the song portrays it so well.

    Standout Moment

    It’s very melancholy, the song is another great one on the album. It’s a ballad and I absolutely adore Olivia for this. 

    The lyric that standout the most for me is “I’m a penny in a fountain
    Just waiting on my luck to change.”

    Replay Value

    Yes, it has replay value, I will be playing it again. This one’s staying in my rotation. 

    Definitely recommend this one.

    Rating

    ⭐ 9.5/10


    Track 10: [What’s wrong with me]

    First Listen

    This is a collaboration with English musician Robert Smith of The Cure, I haven’t heard much about The cure to be honest.

    Again a miss for me, this is not my taste. The song is good, but not for me. I don’t think it will grow on me either.

    I didn’t like it much

    Lyrics

    It’s good, I am not that much a fan of this as much as I would have loved to be. 

    Production

    Same guitar, bass, piano, Old-School Synths, but it all goes great with the album.

    Standout Moment

    The lyric “Went to the doctor and she said I was fine
    But every movie that I see makes me cry” is what stood out the best for me.

    I also like the guitar in the middle.

    Replay Value

    Won’t mind playing it again.

    Rating

    ⭐ 5/10


    Track 11: [Less]

    First Listen

    Less talks about trying hard to save a relationship.

    It is a ballad song. I love ballad songs. The way she explains her body physically suffering in this album with every song is really fantastic. 

    It’s like her body is physically telling her she needs to let go.

    Not being okay, body and head protesting, stomach in knots, going insane, there are so many references of her relationship to her body physically and mentally going through it.

    Lyrics

    This is easily one of the highlights of the album, what else can I say. These songs are pretty good.

    The writing feels raw and honest. She is suffering and the way she expresses it in her words on a song is otherworldly to me right now.

    Production

    The most beautiful track on the album sonically for me.

    Standout Moment

    The standout for me is the lyric “If loving me means letting go
    And wishing me the best
    I wish….. You loved me less”

    Replay Value

    Yes, I would come back to this every time. It’s a great song. I love the piano.

    If you love ballads, listen to this one.

    Rating

    ⭐ 10/10


    Track 12: [Expectations]

    First Listen

    This is her comeback to herself. Talks about her developing herself and setting standards. 

    Love that for her.

    The song is pretty simple, straight to the points. I like this one, it is not the best on the album, but is up there with top 8.

    She is taking her power back with this one, after being in a toxic relationship.

    Lyrics

    Every line feels intentional, she no longer cares about men, and will prioritize herself over men. 

    Production

    This is a very fast-paced 80s inspired song. This goes well with the lyrics, I have realised she is really inspired by Pop-rock a lot in her songs.

    Standout Moment

    Definitely the lyrics “won’t settle for a guy with a fake job
    They seem so desperate for lovin’, but, baby, I’m not.”

    Replay Value

    Sure, I won’t mind replaying it. But it’s not really for me.

    Rating

    ⭐ 8/10


    Track 13: [Cigarette Smoke]

    First Listen

    She is trying to get over her ex… But he still lingers

    I just read about the song and I found out ; “On “cigarette smoke,” Olivia uses the smell of cigarette smoke—which notoriously lingers and is difficult to get rid of—as a metaphor for how hard it is to get over her ex.”

    Which is quite a clever metaphor.

    I don’t know what else to say, if there is a word bigger than love, I would use it to describe the song. It caught me off guard, because this was not my expectations, but this has gone beyond that.

    Lyrics

    The metaphors are incredibly clever. A comparison between her ex and cigarette smoke. She is talking about regretting staying so long. She talks about her resentment, a good ending to the album.

    Production

    I absolutely love the production on this album, this has to be one of my fav albums of the year actually.

    Standout Moment

    So many thing, but Lyrics. Specially lyrics.

    “Some nights can be
    So fucking lonely
    But it’s better than begging for you to stand up for me, honeybee”

    Replay Value

    Another one for the top 5, my playlist is long, but I keep adding. 

    Even if the album isn’t your thing, I’d still recommend this track. 

    This has to be a perfect end to the album.

    Rating

    ⭐ 10/10


    (Bonus Track) Track 14: [Never do (demo)]

    First Listen

    This is a bonus acoustic track, it’s not in the album. So I am not sure how I feel about rating it. 

    Again, it’s an acoustic song, I am not even sure if I heard the correct song, because again, it’s not on Spotify. 

    Lyrics

    This is a perfect other ending of the album. The lyrics are pretty simple; it talks about empty promises in a relationship. I liked this.

    Production

    It’s an acoustic demo.

    Standout Moment

    The songwriting really shines here. 

    “Alone, I feel alone
    Fresh out of things I can numb myself with on my phone
    In love, you’re so in love
    Is that why you went to parties and left me at home for a month?”

    Replay Value

    I would play it, but the song is not available on streaming sites yet… I think. I heard it on youtube.

    If it is available, I’ll play and recommend.

    Rating

    ⭐9.5 /10


    Final Thoughts

    Best Track: Less or Stupid love (I can’t decide) 💕

    Most Underrated: Honeybee (I would say it is a grower, and quite cute)🥰

    Strongest Lyrics: Cigarette smoke

    Best Production: I think the entire album production is really good and it is really cohesive. 

    Biggest Surprise: Less

    Favorite Three Tracks: Less, The cure, Cigarette smoke 

    Skip (if any): Right now, maybe “what’s wrong with me?” 🙃

    Overall Rating: ⭐8.7/10

    Would I Recommend It?: Yes!!🎧

    Who would enjoy this album?: My best friend (I am gonna go ask if she have heard this yet) 

    Would I Listen to This Album Again From Start to Finish?: Yes, I would do it.

    Let me know what do you think about the album below 👇🏻💕


  • The difference between being wanted and being valued.

    A personal reflection on love, attraction, emotional depth, and genuine care. 

    I recently was watching a Turkish Show called “Sen Çal Kapımı”, and I fell in love with Serkan, he became my favourite thing on the show. Yes, the show followed a typical TV series trope from enemies to lovers, second change romance and memory loss, but I was still hooked. I knew it was stupid, but I was hooked. Because of Serkan. 

    Now his character was not the brightest, he had flaws a lot of them, but I loved how he redeemed himself, (and let’s be honest, I was in love with Kerem more). And that show made me reflect on myself and what I want. 

    Too deep.

    I know.

    But, I had a conversation with myself about what I want in my life, the kind of partner (if I ever get one) I would want to spend my life with. And I came to a realisation that I gravitate towards similar types of men. Emotionally available, intense, intelligent, intentional, sharp , witty and masculine men. Which is why characters like Serkan hit me so much.

    I like being valued more than being wanted. I want someone to respect me more than desire me. I want to be considered rather than just be attractive to someone. I refuse to be looked at like an object.

    I want the intensity, but I want respect too.

    I want to be desired, but I want to be considered too.

    I want attraction, but I want attentiveness too.

    There’s a huge difference between being wanted and being valued, yet people constantly confuse the two. Personally, I would choose being valued every single time. Being wanted may feel exciting, passionate, and validating in the moment, but being valued is what creates trust, stability, and genuine connection. 

    Being wanted is often tied to desire, attraction, loneliness, fantasy, or emotional need. It is connected to how someone feels around you and what you provide for them emotionally or physically. Being valued, however, goes deeper than attraction. It is about being respected, considered, appreciated, and treated with care. 

    A person can desire you deeply and still fail to treat you properly. That is the difference many people overlook.

    ✨ What Is Want?

    Want is emotional or physical desire toward someone. People are often drawn to others because they feel exciting, comforting, validating, attractive, or emotionally fulfilling. Attraction and desire are completely natural parts of human connection, and there is nothing inherently wrong with wanting someone.

    However, desire alone does not automatically create healthy love. Sometimes people become attached to the feeling another person gives them rather than genuinely appreciating who that person is. They may love the attention, comfort, validation, or emotional escape they receive without truly understanding or respecting the individual behind it.

    Want can feel intense and consuming, but intensity by itself is not proof of emotional depth. 

    🌿 What Is Value?

    Value is recognizing someone’s worth beyond what they can offer you emotionally or physically. It means appreciating them as a whole person, respecting their individuality, caring about their feelings, and treating them with thoughtfulness and consistency.

    Unlike desire, value is reflected through behavior. Someone who values you communicates honestly, respects your boundaries, supports you during difficult moments, and considers how their actions affect you. Their care is not dependent only on convenience, attraction, or emotional highs.

    While desire may draw people together, value is often what helps relationships survive beyond the initial excitement. 

    💭 Why Do People Crave Being Wanted More Than Being Valued?

    Being wanted feels emotionally powerful. It can make people feel attractive, chosen, important, and desired. That intensity creates excitement and instant emotional gratification, which is why so many people chase it.

    Society also glamorizes passionate pursuit far more than emotional stability. Movies, social media, and modern dating culture often portray obsession, jealousy, and constant longing as signs of deep love. Meanwhile, consistency, emotional maturity, and healthy communication are sometimes treated as boring simply because they feel calmer.

    The problem is that emotional intensity and emotional depth are not always the same thing. Someone can strongly desire you and still fail to respect you, prioritize you, or care for you properly. That is why desire alone is never enough. Without respect and consideration, intensity eventually becomes draining instead of fulfilling. 

    🌸 Why Should Value Matter More?

    Value matters more because it is revealed through actions rather than temporary emotions. Attraction changes. Feelings shift. Excitement naturally rises and falls over time. But the way someone consistently treats you says far more about the health of a relationship than emotional intensity ever could.

    Someone who truly values you listens to you, respects your boundaries, considers your feelings, and shows up even when things are difficult or inconvenient. They see you as a person, not just as a source of validation, comfort, or desire.

    Being wanted may give you butterflies, but being valued gives you peace, trust, and emotional security. 

    🌱 How Can People Learn to Value Respect Over Desire?

    Many people chase being wanted because they connect it to self-worth. Attention and attraction can feel validating, especially in a world where desirability is constantly tied to confidence, beauty, and social value. But eventually, people begin to realize that attention means very little when it comes without care or consistency.

    One of the healthiest mindset shifts is learning to focus less on how intensely someone feels about you and more on how they treat you daily. Instead of only asking:

    “Do they want me?”
    people should also ask:
    “Do they respect me?”
    “Do they support me?”
    “Do I feel safe, heard, and considered around them?”

    Building self-worth plays a huge role here too. People who value themselves are less likely to settle for relationships built only on attraction or emotional highs. They begin to understand that real love is not just about being desired, but about being genuinely appreciated and cared for as a whole person. 

    🚩 Choosing Better Partners

    Choosing better partners often comes down to paying attention to behavior rather than getting lost in chemistry or emotional intensity. Attraction can be powerful, but it should never be the only foundation of a relationship.

    Someone may know exactly how to make you feel wanted, but their actions will always reveal their true character over time. Do they communicate honestly? Do they respect boundaries? Are they emotionally reliable? Do their actions consistently match their words?

    Healthy relationships should bring clarity, trust, peace, and emotional stability instead of constant confusion, mixed signals, anxiety, or emotional chaos. Sometimes people mistake instability for passion simply because it feels intense. 

    Choosing better partners means prioritizing emotional maturity, communication, consistency, and mutual respect over temporary excitement or obsession.

    🤍 Conclusion

    In the end, being wanted and being valued are not the same thing. Desire may create attraction and excitement, but value is what creates trust, respect, and lasting emotional connection.

    Healthy relationships need both passion and care. There is nothing wrong with wanting or being wanted. But personally, if I had to choose between intense desire and genuine value, I would choose value every time. Because while attraction may pull people together, it is respect, consideration, and emotional care that make love last.