Do I believe in fate? Or do I just need life to make sense?
If something bad happens, my first instinct is to tell myself it was meant to teach me something. It helps. It softens the blow. But give me a few hours and I’ll start analyzing my own choices. What did I miss? What could I have done differently? Where did I mess up?
So clearly, I don’t believe everything is pre-written.
But when it comes to love, I want destiny.
I don’t want strategy. I don’t want “we met through mutual career networking and aligned life goals.” I want the cinematic moment. The unexpected connection. The feeling of “oh, this was always going to happen.”
And that says a lot.
Because when I think about career, money, fitness, writing — I’m practical. I know effort builds outcomes. But when I think about love, I want it to feel fated. Like some invisible thread was pulling us toward each other.
Maybe that’s romantic. Maybe that’s naive. Or maybe it’s just human.
I also believe some people come into your life only to teach you something. Not to stay. Not to build a future with you. Just to trigger growth. And I don’t think that’s blind destiny. I think it’s meaning-making. It’s how we survive disappointment without turning bitter.
I think, believing in fate protects you from rejection.
If it wasn’t meant to be, then it wasn’t about your worth. If it ended, maybe it served its purpose. That belief is soothing. But it can also become a shield.
So do I believe in destiny?
I think I believe in themes. Certain chapters feel bigger than coincidence. But the details? The timing? The choices? That’s on me.
Maybe fate gives you the stage.
But you still have to show up and act.
And honestly, that balance feels right.
Let me know if you believe in destiny or fate down below 👇🏻💕
i know I have been away for a month, well my sister got married and I was busy with that. As I maid of Honor I had a lot of work to do. But now I’m back on track. I believe I will be Posting more from now on.
see you soon again. 😁
Ladyink with love 